Couples & Gestalt psychotherapy
Haslemere, surrey & online
You want your life to feel like yours again and you're tired of figuring it out alone.
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In Haslemere, on your doorstep and an hour that’s entirely yours.
And once you're here? This isn't interpretation from a distance, and it's definitely not vague plug-and-play platitudes. This is Gestalt psychotherapy: we work with what's actually happening, so you connect to your experience instead of just describing it. It's lively work... because feeling alive again takes more than sitting still and talking.
My job isn't to hand you a diagnosis, it's to help you notice what's happening: in your body, in the room, in your relationships... so you can find new choices instead of running the same old ones on repeat.
Two ways to feel like yourself again:
Individual Therapy
Tired of holding it all together?
One-to-one psychotherapy, weekly, in Haslemere or online.
For you, not just the problem.
Couples Therapy
Relationship prehab for couples who want
to reconnect, not just referee the same argument.
The you who used to feel like herself? She's still in there.
So is the one who felt curious instead of resentful, who could sit in a room with her partner without keeping score, and who believed the happy relationship she pictured as a little girl was actually possible.
Holding everything together for so long took a few things without asking. I'll support you to reconnect with them... Through the steadiness of someone who stays with you whatever comes up, real awareness of what's happening, and enough of the picture coming into view that new choices start to appear.
The risk isn't couples therapy.
It's not doing it.
Without this work, patterns don’t resolve, they repeat... in this relationship, the next one, or in how you treat yourself.
Engaging in therapy means that whatever happens next, you’ll know you tried, understand your own patterns - maybe for the first time - and can move forward with clarity instead of unfinished business. That’s the difference between repeating something and finally being free of it.
What tends to shift:
What I notice, again and again, is people finding they can bring more of themselves forward: less hiding, less managing how they come across, more of what's actually true. There's a real freedom in that, finally feeling safe enough to be seen as you are.
Less refereeing, more listening. Conversations that don't end in defence. And, little by little, the feeling of being on the same side again, with room to be curious about each other.
Part of the work is learning to name what you need, not just notice it. Right now you might recognise yourself agreeing to things that make your life harder, and still not managing to say no. That's what shifts: you get clear on your own wants and needs, out loud, with your partner and friends, and start acting on them, including finding your no.
I'll invite you to try something new, in the room with me, rather than talk about it: telling me you’re angry, maybe, or role-playing the conversation you’ve never had the courage to have with your mum. That’s usually when new ways of seeing things start to emerge, not as one big insight, but as you see more of the picture coming into view, releasing you from what had previously seemed limited and stuck.
WHEN YOU'RE READY
Not sure where to begin?
Email or call, and we'll start with a conversation about what's going on and whether I'm the right fit.
I'm Laura: six years training at a top psychotherapy institute, advanced training in couples therapy, and a UKCP accredited member.
But the training isn't why clients stay. They stay because I'm steady. I don't flinch when things get big, I don't rush you to feel better, and I won't collapse when you're spiralling... which means you get to, maybe for the first time, without holding it together for someone else's sake.
When I'm not in the room, I'm usually in the woods, shouting two dogs' names into a bush.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is a psychotherapist more qualified than a counsellor?
Broadly, yes. Psychotherapy is postgraduate training, and it takes roughly twice as long as counselling training does. That's not a knock on counsellors, it's just a different, deeper level of clinical training, and it's part of why UKCP accreditation matters when you're choosing someone.
Do I need to be in crisis to go to therapy?
No. Most of my clients aren't in crisis, they're functioning perfectly well from the outside and exhausted underneath it. You don't need a dramatic reason to want your life to feel different.
Ready to pull up a chair?
Email or call, and we'll start with a conversation about what's going on and whether I'm the right fit.